On Getting Out of Survival Mode: Musings, Plans, and Questions on 21st-Century North American Life

Dekafox

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Major tip I actually hadn't thought of, though it's more for the case when we -don't- survive:

https://hachyderm.io/@shortridge/111772428791531454
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Your loved ones or whomever cleans up after you is going to have to go through and cancel subscriptions, and deal with stuff in your digital accounts. Even more important if you have a cryptowallet.
 

CoffeeHorse

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I am still trying to figure out all my dad's stuff so it can be turned over to the probate court.

Please write things down.
 

Tuxedo Prime

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I've got the vast majority of them transcribed securely (save for a couple of accounts/drives that I'm planning to have a deadman-switch delete protocol for). My systems (including my employment) are a little too password-happy to have any other protocol in place.

Alas, long years away seem to have done away with any recollection of my ICQ password. Not sure if anyone was expecting me to use that protocol but it was a bit embarrassing to learn this as I go through the Web 1.0 detritus.... 🙃

No cryptocoinage, thankfully, but I cleaned out a telecom loyalty rewards program and got a fair number of assorted gift cards out of it.
 

Tuxedo Prime

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Okay, so, we had ourselves a moving of abodes -- so that was a bit of a time. But everything is now more or less in order, and the new place looks something like a home.

Work/life balance, alas, is slipping somewhat.

There's been some disposal and divestment. More from my family than from myself, but I have helped with it, and feel lighter rather than sadder for it.

Today in particular was rather accomplished -- did some yard care for the first time in about 13 years, and didn't mind it.

I will admit that I've been reluctant to share much information about the new place -- I've been feeling the need to hide from a lot of things. And I get the sense that some conflicts are brewing in the distance that may be unavoidable.... but I still want to try. At least for now.

I'll likely be going over and reviewing the first few sections of the Hierarchy of Needs for a bit. It's been hard to get out of those layers, if only because every time I start a new project, someone close gets sick, or work demands increase, or something flares up. I suppose that, after all these years, I'm coming to terms with the fact that life will never be nailed down. That said, I do want to do away with the feeling of being buffeted by fate or going from crisis to crisis. So too have many in recent times, I would imagine. I've just been having those feelings for a lot longer.
 

Tuxedo Prime

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Some board members may recognize Mairi "Miley" Watanabe from Mayhem's Bakery thread.
However, this earthquake preparedness video struck me as more appropriate for here.
 

Tuxedo Prime

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So....

I have a feeling that at least some of us will be falling back into survival mode in the months to come, for reasons.

I'll just reassure everyone that I still have my basics in order: Housing (though somewhat off-the-books), employment, food, are all so far in good order. There are saved funds. I don't think I'll be needing go-bags, but I had some for earthquakes (as above) and will be checking them over. It's slightly more likely that people may come here though.

I will also be seeing about offline contact lists.

If any readers have any medical needs to take care of, I suggest using the next 70-odd days to see to them.

Beyond that, well, this board is here.
 

CoffeeHorse

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My crazy Grandma is in one of the areas that got devastated by Hurricane Helene. She's fine, but it was a reminder of how crazy things can get.

TEST YOUR SUPPLIES! If you have a can opener but it doesn't work, you do not actually have a can opener.
 

Tuxedo Prime

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Checking in, checking up.

I did some fasting and cleansing, then got a clean bill of health re: one of my major systems.

Cash flow is a bit tight week-to-week, but I have been able to grow a few no-touch savings piles a little bit each month.

The weather has not been good this spring, but it's clearing up enough that I am looking into getting some seeds -- as there may be some planting land available soon.

Given the latest round(s) of food supply disruptions and price hikes, I thought I would recommend similar to my readers here.
Community gardens started flourishing in the wake of the 2008 financial crisis, and while they never really went away up here, I expect that they may become even more prevalent.

Everyone's circumstances will be different, of course, but looking at what the local area can support -- and if there are any interested and trustworthy neighbours -- could be one project for keeping ahead of these times.
 

Tuxedo Prime

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An odd choice, perhaps, but this advice would have been really useful a lifetime ago, and for those who come later, I offer this discovery.

 

Tuxedo Prime

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An interesting article I was pointed to today, and I -think- this may be the most appropriate thread for it: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/...s/202506/the-3-emotions-that-hijack-the-brain
The three it discusses are Fear, Anger, and Lust, and it discusses them and ways to handle them.
Being a Star Wars Sad Bastard, I have some experience grappling with the first two, of course. The third, well...

(And being a fannish male in a very demographically lopsided fandom likely didn't help matters much. One reason why I sometimes want to smack the volcels whinging that having girls in their fandom of choice ruins things for them.... but, there's that anger to deal with.)

I will be rereading that a lot, if only because I can see a few people sliding into hedonism in an attempt to stave off the fear/anger responses to all that's been going on of late.

My position has been relatively privileged, being Not In the USA and all. But there have been some bureaucratic setbacks -- I discovered that my 1978-2003 records were destroyed by the clinic holding them, and they only informed me of this this summer. I am deciding whether or not to file a complaint about that. I did get to hear from my old doctor (1994-2003), though. I think she will be safe, in California, but I do sometimes worry about her and some friends of mine residing there.

I have laid in for a Proton Mail account for a handful of Most Trusted Contacts. I think that my other email accounts will be sufficient for most things, but I wanted to have something with encryption and non-US servers, Just In Case.

I think about no-win scenarios, sometimes.

A trickle of weregild still comes in.
 

CoffeeHorse

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This past week we got a reminder that a tropical storm can become a cat 5 in 24 hours. Don't get complacent.

But also don't fall into a mentality that disaster preparedness means preparing for roughing it, at least food wise. If there's a disaster and you're without power for a few days, food is going to be the biggest joy you have in life. Trust me on that. So make it count. Plan on absolutely spoiling yourself with deliciousness. You will thank yourself later.

The good news is your food options are better than you might think. Don't forget about cheese. Wonderful, delicious cheese. Don't fall into a mentality that cheese needs to be refrigerated just because it's in a cold part of the grocery store. It doesn't. That's kinda the point of it. If it's already finely shredded, okay maybe, though most shredded stuff is so loaded with preservatives that even that will probably be okay. But if it's a solid block, it'll be absolutely fine if you have no power for a few days. The harder the better. And that's great, because the harder stuff is also some of the most flavorful. I recommend parmesan. The protein content is excellent. It's also low in lactose, so if you think cheese isn't an option for you, set aside a day (just in case) and try some parmesan because you might find out that you can handle it.
 

Tuxedo Prime

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I do remember seeing, imported from France (where canning was invented to preserve the rations of Napoleon's armies, if I remember the Connections series rightly), tinned soft cheeses that were shelf-stable until opened. I think that only the smallest varieties are still imported to my local shops, and I'm hesitant to recommend any imports as a staple given all that's going on, but still worth noting for those who like such things.
 

Tuxedo Prime

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Hey all, checking in again.

On October 23rd, I was gifted a 2014-make hybrid-engine car. Got insurance for same on the 30th, and have since then been adjusting to a different method of commuting. I am no stranger to driving -- I learned the skill in 2002, and have used it since 2010 (joined a car-share co-operative in 2011), but this is something different compared to prior events.

Fuel costs seem to be reasonable, considering the decreased demand owing the engine and driving patterns, but it is still early on that front to be sure. It seems to generally run well, though. I have been endeavouring to keep it as well-fueled as possible in case one must depart in a hurry -- although vehicular evacuation in my area would likely not be a very good plan. Still, it's good to have all contingencies available.

I'm also looking at loading some gear such as flares, reflective blankets, and the like.
 

Tuxedo Prime

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It's somewhat specific advice, and arguably far too late for one who needed it most. But I'm sharing it anyway.
 

Tuxedo Prime

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Semi-related, the Korean perspective (and prioritization) of panic buying in the face of world uncertainty revealed some less culturally particular truths.


I also often find myself controlling a micro environment in the face of greater upheaval. I suspect that the bread machine revival during The Plague Years may have also been connected.
 

Tuxedo Prime

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I don't know if pasting this here will reach this those that would benefit most from it, but I do what I can.

I started investing (in funds as opposed to import toys) in late 2000, in part to have something to look forward to for a future that seemed increasingly bleak. (And if only I knew, I guess, but those deposits into mutual funds have built up.)
 

CoffeeHorse

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Reposting my step by step investing guide, since it's relevant here. I'm not making a fortune here, but it's paying my bills at least. It's definitely an important subject.



Step 1: Don't listen to me. I'm not a professional.
I mean, I do have the degrees but this job market sucks.
Step 2: Don't listen to professionals.

Step 3: Listen to yourself. If you don't know what you're doing, don't do it.

Step 4: Pick companies you can understand, not companies you think are the best deals. Within reason. The important thing is that when you hear news, you have an idea whether that should drive the price up or down because you have some idea what a company actually does and how they do it. You'll never be as fast as a computer, but you will be faster than people who hear news and then try to figure out what stock is going to be the best deal. You'll have your shopping list ready to go.

Step 5: Don't pick too many. Everyone to tells you to diversify your portfolio. Eh. It's a good idea, but unless you're handing your portfolio over to a professional to manage for you, don't pick more than you can comprehend. If you have a few companies in mind, and you're diversified for a few scenarios in mind, great. If you pick companies you can understand but you pick more than you can practically keep up with, you're giving up your advantage. If you don't understand it anymore, at that point you're just diversified for the sake of playing the odds that it can't all go down at once. Don't play the odds. If you don't know what you're doing, don't do it.

Step 5: If you do hand your portfolio over to a professional to manage for you (don't do it), it is still not a good idea to have them doing something you don't comprehend.

Step 6: For God's sake don't gamble with money you don't have. This might actually be the biggest thing. Don't let a professional tell you it's "margin". Like "leverage", margin is just a stupid euphemism for debt. Professionals will try to talk you into doing this, because that is their actual business. They're not advisors, and they are not your friends. They are loan sharks. They'll tell you the amount of stock you can buy isn't really enough to matter, but if you borrow money you can buy enough to have a real portfolio. Don't do it. It'll look like you have a big portfolio, but you don't, because it's not all yours. You're in debt. You're hoping it'll go up enough to pay back what you borrowed and make a profit. And if it goes down you're hugged. When you see stocks down and you hear people whining that they lost money, it's not just boomers who for some reason sell when they see red and then say "I lost money. How did that happen?" That is absolutely a thing, and finance people love them because they are so easy. But anyway, it's also people who bought on margin went into debt. Maybe they haven't actually sold, so they haven't actually lost that yet, but they still owe what they borrowed. With interest. That's how they lose their money. Don't swim with loan sharks.

Step 7: Relax. If you don't borrow money and you do just buy a handful of shares of something you understand with what little you can afford to play with, relax. When markets are down, relax. Unlike people who let a professional talk them into going into debt to buy portfolios that looked bigger than yours, you don't lose anything when markets are down. If you understand what you're invested in, and you understand that it should go back up, buy another handful of shares with however little you can afford to play with. Enjoy the ride when it goes back up. Sell when it feels high enough and you need cash. If you're not borrowing money to do this and your gains aren't being eaten by interest and fees, it really doesn't matter if you're not perfectly timing the exact highs and lows down to the penny.
 

MEDdMI

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I hate having a 401K. I don't want to rely on the stock market for retirement. I want guaranteed growth, even if it's way less than what a 401K can do if the market's good. I have a Federal Credit Union bank account that my parents opened when I was a kid, pretty much for emergencies only. I should see about opening a CD again (certificate of deposit). Basically it gives you a higher interest rate, but you have to leave the money alone for X years or you'll pay penalties.
 


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