Mental, physical, spiritual, social, hmm.
I sat through a week long class learning about these 4 pillars and things about them.
Mental: Getting your mind right. Not quitting because that voice in your head says something will be hard. Anything worth doing is hard. If it was easy, it wouldn't be worth doing.
Physical: More from a military standpoint since this is how it was taught, but staying tough. Staying mission ready. Taking care of yourself so when the shit does hit the fan, you are physically strong enough to handle whatever comes your way. This includes a good diet plan as well, not just being in the gym.
Spiritual: Not necessarily religious. For me, its why I love hiking and biking. I can be out on a trail, get to a certain point, and just look and enjoy what this world has to offer. Maybe its going to church and talking to God (or whatever you believe in).
Social: Having a good social circle, even if that circle is just one other person. Me, I just love being with my wife and kids. I don't really care about hanging out with people other than them, unless Im around my family. But its those people who can see when something is off with you and isn't afraid to ask you if you're OK or not.
The military has the acronym ACE: Ask if they are thinking about hurting themselves or others. Care for them, let them know you are there. Escort them to get help, IE: Mental health, hospital, church, whatever they need.
Biggest thing I took away from the class is: When you hit bottom, are you the ball that bounces back or the egg that cracks. And of course you want to be the ball right? You want to bounce back from adversity and continue back on a better path. But sometimes its OK to crack. Sometimes its OK to get down and feel bad for yourself. But thats when you need to try and pick the pieces up and bounce back. And if you cant do it on your own, you need to recognize that and realize that it is OK to ask for help. Its actually the stronger person who asks for help instead of trying to do it all themselves.
Resiliency is a great thing have and to practice. Knowing how your 4 pillars are and if they are in balance or not and what you can/need to do to get them in balance.