Posted 09 February 2020 - 03:27 AM
I'm going to get to a steady wifi then try to get it back. Has this happened to someone before? Can anyone help?
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1 minute of (minimal) lights, (steady) camera and... ACTION FIGURES! (mostly Transformers) - Episode 031: Combiners and chest envy
Posted 13 February 2020 - 02:45 PM
This is a mini rant, so the venting thread works perfectly. I've brought this up before I believe so honestly I don't blame you for rolling your eyes at what I'm about to say, but honestly this just frustrates me so much.
So, I swear I'll be single forever.
Like I've said I've had issues with this before. I've basically accepted this just might be my life and while I'm still optimistic, I get you have to 'go out' to really meet people, which isn't easy for me. So like any person, I've looked at online dating.
Now I've heard from so many people to try eharmony. To which I decided I was going to do it this year. I got my tax return so I was going to sign up and get a profile on there.
So I got an email from them that said: "Review your matches for free!" and decided yeah I should do this today.
Okay first off that email is a flat out lie. You go through the process of setting stuff up, then it takes you to a payment screen you can't by pass. No you are NOT reviewing matches for free, you are PAYING for it, and THAT is where I remember I always end up taking one look at this and going.
"You're kidding right?"
First off the plans say stuff like: "34.50 a month!" "12.95 a month!" Even with some of them saying that's only for a few of the months, then the price goes up. That's no problem, I can do that.
Except that's NOT how it works. You have three options. One payment/ Two payments/ or Three Payments.
So for one payment it's saying I'll be charged something like 300 bucks TODAY. Then I'll be signed up for a year. I'm sorry but what? That's not MONTHLY. WHY are you telling me monthly when it's clearly not? My best option is to do the three payments which is basically 100 bucks for three months. What if something bad happens and I need that 100 for something important? That's a big chunk of change to just be writing off each month.
Also, no matter how many people tell me it worked great for them. This is a gamble. Yeah maybe I'll meet some nice women, but there is also a chance nothing will come of it. I could drop 300 bucks right now for nothing in return.
I see it like paying 300 bucks on a kickstarter for something that might make it's goal, but then afterward could have the people in charge run off with all the money and you're out 300 bucks.
Am I crazy? That just seems like a really stupid thing to invest in.
I mean I get it, I've spent 200 on a couple of collector item things, but for those I sorta SAVED up. Put a bit away here, a bit away there. Even then in the end I'm GUARANTEED the item. There's no gamble. I'm not giving the store my money and them saying "Hey you might get it you might not" No I'm getting it for certain. It might have cost me a bunch, but I made sure I could spare that money, and I was guaranteed to get something from it.
This... this just sets off all sorts of warning lights in my head, and yet I feel writing this people will indeed think I'm nuts, or that it's worth the risk. I just don't know. Maybe you're all better off financially then me. (Actually I'm almost certain most of you are) but I take one look at that and think. "No, you're gonna be out 300 bucks"
I just don't even know anymore.
It's a secret to everybody
Posted 13 February 2020 - 05:24 PM
Gotta be willing to take a risk, man. If you can't risk a couple hundred to even have a shot, how are you going to pay for dates? Woo-ing costs money, too.
If it's truly important to you, it's worth the risk. Investing that much puts you in a group of people who are also investing, aka serious about finding someone. Less likely to have your heart broken in that situation.
Posted 13 February 2020 - 06:58 PM
Paying for a date I feel is different. Even if it doesn't work out, you're still actively doing something. You are paying money for a thing to happen. Yeah there's a risk, but it's something that one way or the other I'm going to get something out of. Be it an amazing time, or just experience.
This. This I feel is more like I'm going up to a guy my friend told me about, giving him 100 bucks and asking him to go find me some toy I've been after. Then I just go home and sit and wait.
The risk here is this guy can just walk off with my money and I never see them again. I'm not sure if I'm getting my feelings across right, but I want to put money toward something I can see the results from. I'm not throwing money at a 'maybe'.
Even then, I'd be fine giving something like 20 bucks a month to this maybe, so if Match.com really is monthly payment, I'll look into it.
eharmony is NOT monthly payment. It's give us almost 300 bucks right now, and we'll see what we can do. I'm just not sure how I'm suppose to see that as anything other then shady as all hell.
It's a secret to everybody
Posted 14 February 2020 - 12:52 AM
Checked out Match.com. It's not monthly, but it's cheaper then eharmony. Looking into it though, still sounds sketchy.
I'm on OKcupid, but have had minimal luck. Part of the reason I began to look into these 'more popular' dating sites to begin with.
I'm not even frustrated that I'm single. Honestly I still question if I'd make a good boyfriend. I mean I still get mad and yell at videogames. (Thankfully I don't throw controllers or anything like that, but still a grown man that yells at a game...)
I'm more just frustrated with all the things suggested to me seem to be roadblocks. This one is just how damn sketchy the payment plans work. You know if you signed up but decided to cancel, you aren't getting your money back right? I just. how do people not find this shady as bleep?
I know I'm rambling again, but I mean if I told you "Hey I can find that rare transformer toy/other item you've been searching for, but I need you to give me three hundred bucks up front right now." I mean even if other board members vouched for me, you'd be hesitant wouldn't you? You'd be giving me a good chunk of money for something that might not give you any results.
I guess at this point I'm just hoping someone sees where I'm coming from, and I'm not just some lunatic.
Maybe I'll talk myself into match.com, but I have a feeling I've made up my mind to pass.
It's a secret to everybody
Posted 14 February 2020 - 12:28 PM
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