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@  Maximus Ambus : (20 November 2019 - 01:05 PM)

On my shelf I have Ginrai donning the Star Convoy armor.

@  Liege : (19 November 2019 - 07:42 AM)

That he is.

@  Benbot : (18 November 2019 - 04:01 PM)

And a good boy

@  Liege : (18 November 2019 - 09:19 AM)

Hound is at least a very good toy.

@  ThunderWear : (18 November 2019 - 09:11 AM)

Hound is the only other one that even comes close to Chromia in my area, and he ships in two separate waves.

@  Liege : (18 November 2019 - 08:58 AM)

This might be how they finally get rid of all the Chromias. I've not seen a shelfwarmer like that in ages.

@  RichardT1977 : (17 November 2019 - 08:26 PM)

It's a good deal if you want a full set of Refraktor (and if they have them at your location)

@  TheMightyMol... : (17 November 2019 - 04:43 PM)

Here we can buy two and get one free, but at least two of them are gonna be the same toy, because lol distribution.

@  Bass X0 : (17 November 2019 - 01:01 PM)

In the U.K., it’s more like you but two, you only get one given how expensive they are.

@  RichardT1977 : (17 November 2019 - 11:38 AM)

Transformers are Buy 2 Get 1 free at Target this week.

@  Bass X0 : (17 November 2019 - 04:29 AM)

2019 has been one long South Park episode.

@  Sjogre : (16 November 2019 - 10:46 PM)

Okay, that actually sounds pretty fun.

@  Maximus Ambus : (15 November 2019 - 12:49 PM)

It was set in the forties, featured Nazi's as the villains and had Kiko fight mostly Ice Age animals and a mythical dragon that now ruled the island guarding Kongs treasure.

@  Paladin : (15 November 2019 - 11:37 AM)

and it was ALSO eleven hours long.

@  Maximus Ambus : (15 November 2019 - 10:55 AM)

In a alternate reality Peter Jackson made Son of Kong.

@  wonko the sane? : (15 November 2019 - 09:30 AM)

To be fair to boba: everyone else to go into the sarlacc was a sacrifice. Stripped almost naked and tossed, and didn't have body armor, a jetpack and a weapon.

@  TheMightyMol... : (15 November 2019 - 06:54 AM)

Nah, he just has to keep up his plot insurance payments so he can shoot his way out of the Sarlacc again.

@  PlutoniumBoss : (15 November 2019 - 02:59 AM)

Funny, but everyone knows he bounty hunts for Jabba Hutt to finance his 'Vette.

@  Tm_Silverclaw : (15 November 2019 - 02:54 AM)

Okay.. Not sure why.. but streaming is harder than jsut playing the game.. even though that's pretty much what I was doing.

@  Xellos : (14 November 2019 - 06:47 PM)

What type of vehicle does Boba Fett use for time travel? A Man-DeLorean.

@  TM2-Megatron : (14 November 2019 - 03:55 PM)

Admittedly, it's been a long time since I've been to a walk-in clinic, as I tend not to get sick (and the one time I do every 4-5 years, I prefer just riding it out at home), but the last time I went I'm pretty sure you could just show up, no appointment. It may be different in Quebec,though

@  Nevermore : (14 November 2019 - 02:36 PM)

One thing to note about health insurance in Germany is that we have a two-class system: mandatory health insurance is basically the economy class, while private health insurance is the business class.

@  Nevermore : (14 November 2019 - 02:32 PM)

My local doctor is actually a shared office with several doctors where you will get randomly assigned to one of the doctors available that day.

@  Nevermore : (14 November 2019 - 02:30 PM)

Also, employers are required by law to cover part of their employees' health insurance fees, so I only have to pay my part.

@  Nevermore : (14 November 2019 - 02:28 PM)

Basic examinations and sick notes (known as "work-inability certificates" in Germany) for the employer are covered by our health insurances by default.

@  TheMightyMol... : (14 November 2019 - 12:02 PM)

Around here, we can go to a walk-in clinic whenever, but might have to wait in the queue until there's a doctor available, which can take hours on a busy day. And then hope our insurance will cover anything.

@  wonko the sane? : (14 November 2019 - 07:38 AM)

There actually are a good number of clinics around here: but the walk ins require an appointment (what?) and are only done once a week. IF you can get an appointment, you see a doctor usually within 40 minutes, but good luck getting the appointment.

@  Nevermore : (14 November 2019 - 03:35 AM)

Depending on the day.

@  Nevermore : (14 November 2019 - 03:35 AM)

We have family doctors (called "house doctors") with regular office hours where you may need an hour or two of waiting time.

@  TM2-Megatron : (14 November 2019 - 12:50 AM)

Two weeks? That seems a little long; are there not a lot of walk-in clinics around you?

@  wonko the sane? : (13 November 2019 - 07:01 PM)

Does germany make it quick and easy to see a doctor too? Cause an emergency doctor visit can take two weeks out here, and an emergency ROOM visit can take 18-24 hours.

@  Nevermore : (13 November 2019 - 06:43 PM)

(Good thing is, under German law, if you call in sick during your vacation and see a doctor immediately, you get to keep your vacation days.)

@  Nevermore : (13 November 2019 - 06:42 PM)

Too bad. My plans wee to do two more overtime hours before having my last day of vacation for the year on Friday. Oh well.

@  Nevermore : (13 November 2019 - 06:41 PM)

So I'm currently on medical leave for a particularly stupid reason: Burned my back with a hot-water bag while sleeping last night. Though the doctor said I'm hardly the first person to have this happen to them.

@  Patch : (13 November 2019 - 06:11 PM)

Just a particularly odious example of the 90s era of depicting transgender women as either the subject of crude humor, or "Jerry Springer" material.

@  Ashley : (13 November 2019 - 04:55 PM)

I think Ace Ventura legit contributed to me spending years in self denial. I will never be ok with Jim Carrey.

@  Benbot : (13 November 2019 - 01:22 PM)

I thought he since changed his tune.

@  Tm_Silverclaw : (13 November 2019 - 12:51 PM)

Jim Carry Paladin?

@  Maximus Ambus : (13 November 2019 - 12:22 PM)

Don't doubt what he can do. Sonic the Hedgehog!

@  Paladin : (13 November 2019 - 11:51 AM)

not giving a dime to a transphobic antivaxxer.

@  wonko the sane? : (13 November 2019 - 11:25 AM)

It'll be a terrible movie if jim carrey phones it in. Otherwise it should be decent.

@  Paladin : (13 November 2019 - 10:45 AM)

sonics' still gonna be a terrible movie but at least they whined loud enough to make him look passable for a 2-minute trailer. "yay."

@  ▲ndrusi : (13 November 2019 - 10:37 AM)

But of course to annoying people there's no such thing as different decisions made for different reasons, there is only "I like it so it's right" and "I don't like it so it's wrong."

@  ▲ndrusi : (13 November 2019 - 10:35 AM)

Even if we pretend it's objective truth that they were both bad, then they were bad in very different ways.

@  ▲ndrusi : (13 November 2019 - 10:33 AM)

Sonic's previous movie design looked genuinely bad. The Transformers '07 designs just looked insufficiently like what certain loud and obnoxious parts of the fandom think Transformers are required to always look like.

@  Otaku : (13 November 2019 - 08:50 AM)

Um... Purple Monkey Dishwasher?

@  TheMightyMol... : (13 November 2019 - 08:25 AM)

Do we really need to have Every Movie Transformer Thread Ever in the Squawkbox?

@  Bass X0 : (13 November 2019 - 08:13 AM)

Sure it made money but that doesn’t mean it has appealing character designs. Lot of god awful fugly faces in the Transformers movies.

@  Otaku : (12 November 2019 - 08:25 PM)

@Liege My issue with Transformers (2007) were elements I thought were unnecessary.  I know it was supposed to just be a joke, but I didn't ever need to hear about "Sam's Happy Time". >.> Which, being in awe of the first "live action" TF-film, didn't even register until I'd already purchased and watched it on DVD a few times (after seeing it in theaters 3 times).

@  Liege : (12 November 2019 - 08:22 PM)

For all the Bayisms in the 07 movie, it was tempered by Spielberg as producer. Designs aside it was an enjoyable popcorn blockbuster about a boy and his first car who happens to be an alien from another planet. They sequels are just Bay going unchecked after he proved how much bank he could bring in.


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#41 Destron D-69

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Posted 02 July 2014 - 06:30 PM

I read it the way you intended it StarSaber, but people don't often follow my posts the way I think they read. so I may not be the best help lol.  Its a very sensitive issue for a good number of reasons for a great many people, if this miscommunication is the worst we get in this thread we're doing okay.



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Posted 02 July 2014 - 07:13 PM

I read it the way you intended it StarSaber, but people don't often follow my posts the way I think they read. so I may not be the best help lol.  Its a very sensitive issue for a good number of reasons for a great many people, if this miscommunication is the worst we get in this thread we're doing okay.

It'll be better than a forum I go on where there are users who actually want trans* people to be branded with a mark showing that they're trans*.


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Posted 02 July 2014 - 07:21 PM

I worry a lot about accidentally offending alternately-gendered persons through ignorance. Is "trans" usually the socially-acceptable term? 


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Posted 02 July 2014 - 07:27 PM

So if this thread exists, there is absolutely not reason for me to be continuing in this "Gender: Not Telling" business.  [Fixes]

 

Where does that feeling come from? How do you first identify it and what.. I dunno.. what things could you list that you knew were wrong that makes you identify or fixate on one gender identity or the other? How do YOU define your own gender enough to know it's not right.

 

What's the springboard or the catalyst for this identity?

For me at least, this has been a weird and confusing experience and (other than an intangible feeling of something being wrong,) I'm not completely sure I can identify why I feel this way.  Cognitively.  Neurologically, I'm fairly certain that specific parts of the parietal lobe have been mapped to specific parts of the body, suggesting that an out-of-the-box parietal is already optimized for use with the human body.  Since we know that male and female brains are different to start with, it seems logical to assume that they're designed to expect their sex's characteristics, and might not even have a hardwired understanding of the opposite sex's.  Hence a transsexual's genitals feel like a deformation, because not only is the parietal expecting something else, it's probably rendering the sensory input wrong and might not even recognize it as human anatomy.  And if the parietal is aware of what is/isn't supposed to happen at puberty, things get even more uncanny.

 

Personally though, the real tipping point that made me accept being transsexual was when I decided that being female sounded like it fit me more than being male.  The list of common estrogen side-effects look like a list of unfair stat buffs to me, I frequently prefer feminine aesthetics, I have no love for manliness, and IRL I'm always awkward around people because they seem to be expecting me to act in ways I don't want to.  So it was partly a mental/social decision for me, too.

 

 

Everybody get ready for the most groundbreaking, earth-shattering question of the century

 

How do you decide which bathroom to use? If you changed, was it weird going to the "opposite world" from what you were used to?

Considering how often I need to double-check the signage three times to reassure myself I'm not walking into the wrong bathroom, I don't think I could possibly walk into the wrong one on accident when I do get to transition.  Though I don't know if this sort of paranoia is normal for all transsexuals, even though the author of Whipping Girl (that book Copper mentioned) said she had the problem as well.  Though I imagine there's a really awkward androgynous period during transition where both bathrooms are the wrong one.


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Posted 02 July 2014 - 08:00 PM

Everybody get ready for the most groundbreaking, earth-shattering question of the century

 

How do you decide which bathroom to use? If you changed, was it weird going to the "opposite world" from what you were used to?

 

That's actually a hugely loaded question whether you know it or not... (and yes, I know the question was asked in innocence!)

 

First off let me say you've actually found a topic I'm not comfortable about discussing in regards to myself!

Being transgender and in that flux state and dealing with bathrooms is traumatizing. Why? Because you read all these stories about pompous asses calling store security or even the cops on trans people who "don't belong" in whatever bathroom they happen to be in.

 

The quick answer is this: trans men go in the men's room, trans women go in the women's room. Unless you're some sort of nut, and  want the genital police to set up shop, give everyone a quick once over on the way in. Maybe the TSA? They're good at making everyone uncomfortable, angry, and like to ridicule trans people too!

 

And to your second question, five words: THE MEN'S ROOM IS DISGUSTING.

 

Kira,

I didn't mean to offend you but I think you may have misconstrued my statement. I never said you didn't reject your physical sex. What I said was that if you only lived as a female part-time and that it WASN'T because of outside factors that made it difficult or even impossible then it would seem to me that you hadn't completely rejected it. However, since outside factors WERE at play then my following statement clearly didn't apply.

I apologize if my assertion was confusing.

Thanks for clarifying.

-SS

 

OK, but really if someone says they're trans and they're living part-time there is always an outside factor! Otherwise they're simply mis-classifying themselves... they might be genderqueer or genderfluid instead. (which I guess are part of the trans spectrum, but not what people classically think of)

 

 

I read it the way you intended it StarSaber, but people don't often follow my posts the way I think they read. so I may not be the best help lol.  Its a very sensitive issue for a good number of reasons for a great many people, if this miscommunication is the worst we get in this thread we're doing okay.

It'll be better than a forum I go on where there are users who actually want trans* people to be branded with a mark showing that they're trans*.

 

 

That's supremely disgusting!

Actually branded? I hate to throw around the term Nazi without good reason (my grandma had relatives who died in concentration camps, so yeah) but actually branding people! Jeez. Sick bastards.

I'm assuming they're straight cis men afraid of accidentally romantically interacting with a trans woman and instantly becoming super gay. Asses like that piss me off!

Two points guys like that need to learn:

-All women don't exist as just sex objects, existing only for them to hit on.

-Trans women aren't "traps" secretly working to make straight men gay.

I'm sure there's other ones I can't think of right now but we'll start small, heh.

 

 

Oh, and going back, something I wanted to add before about growing up... besides Transformers when I was very young my favorite toys were my Cabbage Patch Baby(?) (he was named Dallas, was bald, and my great grandmother made red overalls for him!) and Teddy Rupskin. I used to watch Jem all the time, like nonstop... I even started my own imaginary band! It was truly, truly outrageous! I realize that when I started Kindergarten is when I first notice that I was playing with things and doing things "my gender" shouldn't, and out of fear and want of normalcy and to fit in I sort of conformed to what was expected of me as much as I could.

 

It's horrible that any child, trans or not, should feel pressured that way.
 


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Posted 02 July 2014 - 08:07 PM

I worry a lot about accidentally offending alternately-gendered persons through ignorance. Is "trans" usually the socially-acceptable term? 

 

Yep, it's a bit less formal but good in everyday conversation.

Also good:

Transgender (NOT transgendered)

Trans woman

Trans man

Trans person

Woman

Man

Person

 

Just to name a few. Of course make sure the man/woman part matches with the identity of who you're talking to or about!

And just in case anyone is curious, the "trans" is usually separated from the noun because it's just another adjective.

Like I am a trans woman, not a transwoman.


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Posted 02 July 2014 - 08:14 PM

Actually branded? I hate to throw around the term Nazi without good reason (my grandma had relatives who died in concentration camps, so yeah) but actually branding people! Jeez. Sick bastards.

I'm assuming they're straight cis men afraid of accidentally romantically interacting with a trans woman and instantly becoming super gay. Asses like that piss me off!

Well it was one user who eventually got banned a few weeks later, so yeah. (The guy who runs the site doesn't ban controversial opinions since a draw of the site is debate, although he (well, the mods, he doesn't post on the forums) will ban you for trolling even if you actually hold those opinions)

 

 

And just in case anyone is curious, the "trans" is usually separated from the noun because it's just another adjective.

I've always crunched the trans and the noun together. :\

 

No one has ever told me that was wrong.


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Posted 02 July 2014 - 08:18 PM

I actually went in the woman's room by accident when I was 13...but I didn't realise until I came out the cubicle and there were loads of women staring at me! I played it cool though and washed my hands, even dried them (gotta finish what you started) and nobody even said a thing. Thank God for other people's social awkwardness.


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Posted 02 July 2014 - 08:19 PM

Different people do it differently. Most of my trans friends mash the trans onto there.



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Posted 02 July 2014 - 08:25 PM

You mention "traps" and that brings up another question.

It seems to me that the term and its implication would be deemed highly offensive in the TG community and yet I've noticed that a large number of young trans women have embraced it as a term indicating one in transition. It is particularly popular among teens.

How does the community feel about that? Is it widely viewed as acceptable or as an insult...or does it depend on the company you keep?

-SS

Edited by StarSaber, 02 July 2014 - 08:34 PM.


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Posted 02 July 2014 - 08:26 PM

 

Actually branded? I hate to throw around the term Nazi without good reason (my grandma had relatives who died in concentration camps, so yeah) but actually branding people! Jeez. Sick bastards.

I'm assuming they're straight cis men afraid of accidentally romantically interacting with a trans woman and instantly becoming super gay. Asses like that piss me off!

Well it was one user who eventually got banned a few weeks later, so yeah. (The guy who runs the site doesn't ban controversial opinions since a draw of the site is debate, although he (well, the mods, he doesn't post on the forums) will ban you for trolling even if you actually hold those opinions)

 

 

And just in case anyone is curious, the "trans" is usually separated from the noun because it's just another adjective.

I've always crunched the trans and the noun together. :\

 

No one has ever told me that was wrong.

 

 

I don't think it's wrong, I've just seen the other way (separated) used more often.

And the reasoning makes sense... I'm not just a "transwoman", I'm a cool, intelligent, pretty, friendly, trans, pansexual woman. They all describe me!

 

I actually went in the woman's room by accident when I was 13...but I didn't realise until I came out the cubicle and there were loads of women staring at me! I played it cool though and washed my hands, even dried them (gotta finish what you started) and nobody even said a thing. Thank God for other people's social awkwardness.

 

Lmao, nice.
Although your age and the fact you weren't wearing women's clothes might have helped. The looneys probably would be annoyed at a full grown man in the women's room, but they'd be absolutely LIVID and confrontational over a trans woman in there (or as they might see it, "a man in a dress")

If someone tried to tell me I don't belong in the women's room I hope I remember to say something snappy like "Honey, like I dress like this just so I could sneak a peek at you." And then laugh in their face. (note: I'm not brave enough to say that)
 


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Posted 02 July 2014 - 08:29 PM

You mention "traps" and that brings up another question.

It seems to me that the term and its implication would be deemed highly offensive in the TG community and yet I've noticed that a large number of young transwomen have embraced it as a term indicating one in transition. It is particularly popular among teens.

How does the community feel about that? Is it widely viewed as acceptable or as an insult...or does it depend on the company you keep?

-SS

 

Depends on who it is.

 

I personally don't like it because of what it implies. But some girls use it ironically, or even truly embrace it. And some self-called traps aren't actually transgender girls, instead being crossressers.


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Posted 02 July 2014 - 08:40 PM

One of my trans friends uses it very casually because of that, and one used to use it but now finds it offensive (But doesn't tell people what to do).

 

I lean more towards the latter than the former (For context in anime there's already a perfectly acceptable term without negative connotations), but I'm not about to tell her what terms she should or shouldn't use!


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Posted 02 July 2014 - 08:54 PM

 

You mention "traps" and that brings up another question.

It seems to me that the term and its implication would be deemed highly offensive in the TG community and yet I've noticed that a large number of young transwomen have embraced it as a term indicating one in transition. It is particularly popular among teens.

How does the community feel about that? Is it widely viewed as acceptable or as an insult...or does it depend on the company you keep?

-SS

 

Depends on who it is.

 

I personally don't like it because of what it implies. But some girls use it ironically, or even truly embrace it. And some self-called traps aren't actually transgender girls, instead being crossressers.

I even see some people use "traps" to refer to effeminate, non-crossdressing and non-transgendered men. It means everything and nothing.

(also on this thread I'm now seeing ads for transsexual singles)


You're far too young to be this bitter and angry at the world....

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Posted 02 July 2014 - 08:55 PM

Only Admiral Ackbar is allowed to use "trap".



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Posted 02 July 2014 - 09:16 PM

So is it ok if I touch on something more personal?

The last few weeks have actually been a bunch of ups and downs for me, with the dsyphoria and regrets hitting me hard, and a breast cancer scare or two (which is almost 100% me being an anxious hypochondriac). There was a lot of crying too. Basically I was hurting hard that I wasn't "normal", that I couldn't just have been born with a matching gender and sex, and that I struggle SO HARD just so I can have the same basic opportunities and experiences that most other people enjoy.

And there was this guy, who I've been friends with for years, and we reconnected online this year and he is super accepting and we picked up where we left off basically. Buuuut I've always had this huge crush on him (dare I say I love him?) and I was upset that even though he accepts me as a woman and is cool about it, that he will never see me only as a woman. I'm always going to be that "guy" he knew too (but I'm so glad he met me after I accepted I was trans, and grew my hair out, starting plucking my brows, and just looking more androgynous... phew...) and I don't think he could ever see me like I want him too.
SO I was filled with regret over all of it, wondering "WHYYYYY?", and just feeling sorry for myself.

 

Then something just snapped. I pulled a full 360 and picked myself up. I got angry, and I focused it and knocked away those thoughts.

So I posted this on my facebook wall after, and I think it's good enough to share (now with Allspark friendly censoring!):

"You know what? HUG THAT.

I'm awesome. And while it might be easier to be normal, who the hug wants to be normal? Normal is boring. Hell, no girl is truly normal.

I'm probably the coolest, smartest, kindest, and most interesting person anyone will ever meet. Any guy, girl, or sentient machine would be beyond lucky to date me. People should be beating down my door, lavishing me with gifts in an attempt to woo me.

I am the most hugging awesome girl you will ever meet.
"

 

And I still stand by it. It is all truth.

As for the guy, we still talk and are cool. Still hoping against hope that someday he'll notice me, but I'm not waiting around for him either. Heh.


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Posted 02 July 2014 - 09:22 PM

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Posted 02 July 2014 - 09:40 PM

 

"You know what? HUG THAT.

I'm awesome. And while it might be easier to be normal, who the hug wants to be normal? Normal is boring. Hell, no girl is truly normal.

I'm probably the coolest, smartest, kindest, and most interesting person anyone will ever meet. Any guy, girl, or sentient machine would be beyond lucky to date me. People should be beating down my door, lavishing me with gifts in an attempt to woo me.

I am the most hugging awesome girl you will ever meet.
"

This is the absolute best attitude no matter what your situation is and applies to nearly everyone. I say "nearly" cuz some people are asshats but still manage to do alright.

 

Your ability to make it through this struggle speaks only to the amount of strength that you harbor inside you, the potential that every person on the planet has to overcome hardships. To dig deep down, discover what the problem is, stare it right in the face, and then punch it right back in that face. Sure, you might hurt your hand and this may only be round 1, but the point is you had the courage to throw the punch in the first place.

 

It's nothing short of admirable, really. 


Edited by Zek, 02 July 2014 - 09:40 PM.


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Posted 02 July 2014 - 10:19 PM

I'm a gay lady, so I've thought about becoming a man in order to have more luck on the dating scene (or at least more masculine).

 

But part of me is surprisingly traditional in that I can't see gender not being binary.

 

Well, more like I see it as a sliding scale. Everyone is a mix of masculine or feminine traits, but I don't think there's any sort of other classifications, just that everyone is different in levels of masculinity or femininity, and can be masculine or feminine about certain things.


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#60 Destron D-69

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Posted 02 July 2014 - 10:32 PM

I'm not really cool with labels in general, so I just call people by their names.  It's mostly a respect thing- that and I like to think it sends the signal that I like you enough to not just 'hey you' at you.

 

screen names included ... cause honestly at this point You guys would get a quicker response from me on the street calling me Destron then you would Jon, lol I usually think people are calling to somebody else when I hear that name.

 

so ladies, if we ever meet in person give me your screen name and I will respect the hell out of your choice of either hug or handshake.

 

lol


Edited by Destron D-69, 02 July 2014 - 10:34 PM.




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