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@  Summer : (29 April 2016 - 02:07 PM)

The TFWiki Facebook group has long since been abandoned by the actual TFWiki moderators, and there's little to no affiliation with the actual site.

@  Paladin : (29 April 2016 - 07:58 AM)

Willis needs to make rent again?

@  Foffy the Sheep : (29 April 2016 - 06:46 AM)

Oh, are the Titans Return leaks up on there, too?

@  NightViper : (29 April 2016 - 06:41 AM)

Holy jive! So much porn spam in the TFWiki Facebook group!

@  Foffy the Sheep : (29 April 2016 - 06:34 AM)

SAVE THE BUNNIES!!!!

@  MEDdMI : (29 April 2016 - 05:59 AM)

I know I said I like steely buns, but I didn't literally mean buns made out of steel!

@  Foffy the Sheep : (29 April 2016 - 05:20 AM)

Alligators are really scary, because they can eat you. But you know what's even scarier than alligators? Flying alligators. With laser vision. Scariest environment imaginable.

@  Foffy the Sheep : (29 April 2016 - 02:24 AM)

Rook has a very firm butt. ;)

@  Foffy the Sheep : (29 April 2016 - 02:20 AM)

But his butt is down there, and that's what I want to look at.

@  TheMightyMol... : (29 April 2016 - 02:19 AM)

Rook's eyes are up here, Foffy.

@  Foffy the Sheep : (29 April 2016 - 02:14 AM)

Obviously. Rook couldn't very well win the swimsuit competition while he was stuck being a leg, now could he?

@  TheMightyMol... : (29 April 2016 - 02:12 AM)

....of joy, because he's no longer stuck holding up a heavy combiner and can now go do his own thing?

@  Foffy the Sheep : (29 April 2016 - 02:09 AM)

You hear that? That's the sound of Rook crying bitter, bitter tears.

@  Telly : (29 April 2016 - 12:58 AM)

my deluxe groove has shipped! soon i will have defensor the way he is supposed to be!!

@  Dracula : (28 April 2016 - 09:09 AM)

All I can say is their preorder and invoice system seems to work fine.

@  Dracula : (28 April 2016 - 09:09 AM)

Oddly I just placed an order with them this week. But I haven't received the item (Victorion) yet, so I can't really give you a review

@  zephyrX9 : (27 April 2016 - 11:46 PM)

anyone here ever shopped at Ages Three And Up? If so, how is their service?

@  MEDdMI : (27 April 2016 - 08:46 PM)

Don't remind me, they do that at my work too *shudder*

@  Patchouli Kn... : (27 April 2016 - 08:29 PM)

Oh yes, yes, it did.

@  Telly : (27 April 2016 - 08:28 PM)

and during christmas it just got woooooooooooooorse....

@  Patchouli Kn... : (27 April 2016 - 08:27 PM)

I used to work at a grocery store, so I'd hear those songs for 8 long hours...

@  Paladin : (27 April 2016 - 07:38 PM)

that feeling when you hear a song at the grocery store & it winds up stuck in your head hours later...

@  Kalidor : (27 April 2016 - 06:08 PM)

Site may or may not be sluggish for a bit.. running some updates and reports

@  The Doctor Who : (27 April 2016 - 06:00 PM)

Pfft, the Time Traveler was better. He built his time in the 1890's!

@  ▲ndrusi : (27 April 2016 - 05:56 PM)

Gary Seven or nothing!

@  The Doctor Who : (27 April 2016 - 05:44 PM)

Personally I like Inspector Spacetime better...

@  Telly : (27 April 2016 - 05:33 PM)

doctor...doctor...doctor who hhhooooooooooooooooooooo!!!

@  Paladin : (27 April 2016 - 05:16 PM)

HO, THAT'S WHO!

@  Telly : (27 April 2016 - 05:05 PM)

DOCTOR WHY?

@  Foffy the Sheep : (27 April 2016 - 04:47 PM)

DOCTOR WHERE?

@  Foffy the Sheep : (27 April 2016 - 04:47 PM)

DOCTOR WHAT?

@  Ms Virion : (27 April 2016 - 04:46 PM)

No, TheDoctorWho.

@  Bass X0 : (27 April 2016 - 04:44 PM)

DOCTOR WHO?

@  Telly : (27 April 2016 - 04:43 PM)

my black and white world view has been shattered into so many tiny pieces now. like little packing peanuts tossed into a river my mind is scattered. AND ITS ALL YOUR FAULT!

@  Foffy the Sheep : (27 April 2016 - 04:38 PM)

Don't say it Foffy. Don't say it...

@  Ms Virion : (27 April 2016 - 04:35 PM)

I can attest to that. I've seen his recording equipment.

@  Foffy the Sheep : (27 April 2016 - 04:30 PM)

THE DOCTOR WAS ONE OF THE VOICES

@  Telly : (27 April 2016 - 04:30 PM)

but the doctor told me the voices wouldnt come back anymore...

@  Foffy the Sheep : (27 April 2016 - 04:26 PM)

We are your conscience. You do everything we tell you to. Now slap yourself in the face.

@  Telly : (27 April 2016 - 04:22 PM)

where am i? who are you people?

@  Foffy the Sheep : (27 April 2016 - 04:16 PM)

No. No one remembers anything. Everyone has amnesia.

@  Bass X0 : (27 April 2016 - 03:51 PM)

Does anyone remember Revolution X?

@  Bass X0 : (27 April 2016 - 03:40 PM)

It's in Connecticut.

@  Bass X0 : (27 April 2016 - 03:39 PM)

Now go to Pym Falls.

@  Smokey : (27 April 2016 - 03:38 PM)

... *jumps off of Victoria Falls*

@  TheMightyMol... : (27 April 2016 - 03:30 PM)

He's on HTS now.

@  Smokey : (27 April 2016 - 03:28 PM)

I got the Deluxe from Japan. I lost patience waiting for Hasbro to release him.

@  Lightbright : (27 April 2016 - 02:40 PM)

It's an evolution revolution!

@  Kalidor : (27 April 2016 - 01:32 PM)

I enjoyed Revolution. Was a good show.

@  TheMightyMol... : (27 April 2016 - 12:00 PM)

You would oppose the revolution?


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#1 Crypt

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Posted 12 April 2012 - 06:10 PM

So I've been given permission to have relations with others if I so please. I've always been open to the idea, but never actually had anyone tell me I could. I've had friends with benefits setups before, but not an open relationship.

Anyone here ever been in one? How was it? Hit any weird road blocks or did reality conflict with expectations?

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Posted 12 April 2012 - 06:24 PM

Given the subject matter, I think you need to slap some really big warnings to potential posters to be very thoughtful regarding their replies. Otherwise, I see this thread getting shut down VERY quickly.

Some other information you may want to consider including in your post:

Whether you and your partner are married, engaged, steady. For how long?
What is your partners' interest level in seeing others?
What are the limits of your encounters? Will your home be opened to hosting?

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Posted 12 April 2012 - 06:33 PM

I've always been mystiified by the very idea of an open relationship.

Ideally, shouldn't the one you're already in fulfill everything a relationship "should"?

And if fit doesn't, why remain in the relationship with the alpha person?

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#4 Crypt

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Posted 12 April 2012 - 06:49 PM

QUOTE(MrBlud @ Apr 12 2012, 07:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I've always been mystiified by the very idea of an open relationship.

Ideally, shouldn't the one you're already in fulfill everything a relationship "should"?

And if fit doesn't, why remain in the relationship with the alpha person?


People have different ideals about what a relationship is and does. For me it'd be the love aspect. I don't think sex has to be bound to it. It's a nice benefit, but the relationship doesn't have to have a monopoly on it. Just the same way that your partner doesn't have to be your only friend, he/she doesn't need to be your only sexual partner. And even then, plenty of people believe that even love doesn't need 1 person monopoly and enter into poly-amorous relationships.

So "ideally" is different for different people when they have different standards on what constitutes a good relationship.

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Posted 12 April 2012 - 06:51 PM

Yeah, I was sort of in one.

It's not for me.

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Posted 12 April 2012 - 06:52 PM

QUOTE(MrBlud @ Apr 12 2012, 06:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I've always been mystiified by the very idea of an open relationship.

Ideally, shouldn't the one you're already in fulfill everything a relationship "should"?

And if fit doesn't, why remain in the relationship with the alpha person?


I've been in an open relationship for 10 out of the 12 years Chris and I have been together. It's very liberating for both of us: if there's ever any sense of stagnation in our intimate life, we are permitted to seek companionship elsewhere, either on our own, or together. I'm trying to be as delicate in wording as possible here... heh. As long as there is significant communication and trust, the potential for conflict is greatly diminished-- to the point of being near nil.

Are we ever jealous of each other's companions? Occasionally, but it's almost always based on aesthetics.

It takes a very particular level of compatibility for two people to agree to an open relationship and make it work... I'm completely fulfilled by my partner, and although I would be perfectly happy in a closed relationship, there's a different level of fulfillment we feel when we're allowed to stray. It's kind of an adventure.

The idea of a polyamorous relationship is also on the table for us. There are a few people we've met in our lives that we have connected with in a way that make us consider opening ourselves to a third, but we're fat and things get cramped.

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#7 Kalidor

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Posted 12 April 2012 - 06:55 PM

I haven't and it doesn't really sound like something I'd be a fan of. Stuff like group sex or whatever seems more like a "something I'd do when I'm single" kind of activity.

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Posted 12 April 2012 - 06:57 PM

Something to note: I've encountered FAR more same-sex open relationships than opposite-sex ones. Anyone have opinions on why that is?

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Posted 12 April 2012 - 06:58 PM

QUOTE(Crypt @ Apr 12 2012, 07:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE(MrBlud @ Apr 12 2012, 07:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I've always been mystiified by the very idea of an open relationship.

Ideally, shouldn't the one you're already in fulfill everything a relationship "should"?

And if fit doesn't, why remain in the relationship with the alpha person?


People have different ideals about what a relationship is and does. For me it'd be the love aspect. I don't think sex has to be bound to it. It's a nice benefit, but the relationship doesn't have to have a monopoly on it. Just the same way that your partner doesn't have to be your only friend, he/she doesn't need to be your only sexual partner. And even then, plenty of people believe that even love doesn't need 1 person monopoly and enter into poly-amorous relationships.

So "ideally" is different for different people when they have different standards on what constitutes a good relationship.


Fair enough.

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#10 Crypt

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Posted 12 April 2012 - 07:03 PM

QUOTE(Dr Fang @ Apr 12 2012, 07:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Something to note: I've encountered FAR more same-sex open relationships than opposite-sex ones. Anyone have opinions on why that is?


Maybe it's because we already have to brush against the norms of society, so maybe that brings to the table more norms we can experiment with more easily.

The wiki stats are interesting though:
http://en.wikipedia....en_relationship
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1983 study by Philip Blumstein and Pepper Schwartz:[1]
15 percent of married couples in a sample of 3,574 couples, had ?an understanding that allows non-monogamy under some circumstances?
28 percent of cohabitating couples had ?an understanding that allows non-monogamy under some circumstances?
29 percent of lesbian couples had ?an understanding that allows non-monogamy under some circumstances?
65 percent of gay male couples had ?an understanding that allows non-monogamy under some circumstances?




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Posted 12 April 2012 - 07:07 PM

People that are open to an open relationship hey do what you like. To me its means to an end, The end of a relationship. Thats my opinion. If yours is different good im happy for you I wont try to change it don't try to change mine. Me and my wife always joke about how she would jump Johnny Depp or Vin Diesel and my girfriend is Zhang Zizi. But the truth is we both make each other happy and nothing is missing from our relationship. So my serious honest question is is there something missing from your relationship or do you both just want to explore cause be careful it can be a very sharp double-edged sword.

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Posted 12 April 2012 - 07:18 PM

I haven't myself, but I've known a few people who've tried it. It worked for some, and not for others (the latter group being a bit bigger). Many people just aren't suited to that kind of thing; it sounds fine to them on paper (especially guys), but in practice resentment eventually builds up and kills the primary relationship. But if one is the type of person who can deal with it (and the other person in the relationship is, as well), then it seems to be fine.

However, I'm reminded of Tobias F?nke's thoughts on open relationships, lol.



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Posted 12 April 2012 - 07:18 PM

as far as I know every relationship I've had was an open one

>_> being that the door's always open if I wanted to leave LOL

I don't think I've met a woman that was INTO the idea that I might be looking around "browsing" if you will. Then they always seemed a little weird-ed out when I say I don't mind her looking.

the way I look at it: I've loved all the women I've had relationships with, I've remained close with most of the more recent ones and a LOT of the ones from my youth... I treat them with the respect any individual deserves ... having played with her underbits, doesn't make her less of a person after I'm not able to anymore. LOL

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As to your question/statement Fang, I can only say that yeah, it must just be a cultural thing - what with all the other baggage being dealt with, this sort of thing -bound to be easier to work through.

maybe just the whole 'like minds' angle, Men and Women have group socializing...

two guys in a bar listening to a 3rd harass a lady -one nodes to the other and without words the conversation has been made that "this is going to end now, got my back if it comes to blows?"
Women have that whole, tilt head to side - off to washroom in pairs thing as just another example.

so yeah, I never being in a non-hetero relationship - can only guess that yeah its the 'working from the same OS' and the somewhat unique situation that you seem to be noticing at work.

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Posted 12 April 2012 - 07:42 PM

Im in one right now both girls know about the other one both get jelous at times but there 0 contact between thim one is bi and has a relationship with another girl who I dont know or have 0 contact with

Both got sick of the guys that they where with being aholes till they found me im a very nice guy and they both never had that before they tried fighting over me at first tring to make me choose I was going to let thim go for there own good and find someone else enitrly but both decide to let me keep seeing the other with out much drama

Just be honest with thim I never lie to both of my girls no matter what as long as Im doing nothing wrong theres nothing to hide

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Posted 12 April 2012 - 08:39 PM

My girlfriend told me that I should have sex with other women as well as with her (partially because I didn't have that much experience prior to meeting her, and she's afraid that I might be missing out on something), but honestly.. I'm not going to take that risk. There's always the chance that it will unexpectedly bother her, after all or lead to other, tricky issues. And I don't want to risk losing her over that.

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Posted 12 April 2012 - 08:44 PM

Also, gonorrhea

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Posted 12 April 2012 - 08:54 PM

I think the biggest question is who this is supposed to be for.

Have you had any complaints about the frequency or quality of sex? It could be her trying to solve the problem and keep you.

Is it out of the blue? For her? If so, she may have someone on the side and be trying to legitimize it and/or alleviate her guilt by ensuring that you are also with someone else.

Or, best case scenario, she's just into this kind of thing. She might have more awesome surprises for you down the line. letters to the editor kind of surprises.

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Posted 12 April 2012 - 08:59 PM

My ex-wife and I had an open relationship,she kept opening my wallet so I opened the front door.

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Posted 12 April 2012 - 09:03 PM

QUOTE(Solarstorm @ Apr 12 2012, 09:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I think the biggest question is who this is supposed to be for.

Have you had any complaints about the frequency or quality of sex? It could be her trying to solve the problem and keep you.

Is it out of the blue? For her? If so, she may have someone on the side and be trying to legitimize it and/or alleviate her guilt by ensuring that you are also with someone else.

Or, best case scenario, she's just into this kind of thing. She might have more awesome surprises for you down the line. letters to the editor kind of surprises.



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Posted 12 April 2012 - 09:33 PM

It works for some and doesnt work for others. You jealousy levels will be the key, that and trust.Thats it.



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